3A,FL Model for Conflict Resolution

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Conflicts are natural in any relationship. No two people will feel or behave the way the other does or expects all the time because we are humans and cannot always function in a standardized fashion. While it is normal to be in conflict situations, what is important is how one responds to or resolves these situations. Any relationship-in personal and or professional life can take an ugly form when conflicts are left unresolved or when there is a blame game.

For the health of the relationship and for the mutual benefit of individuals, it is imperative that there is transmission of positive energy. Energy between two people can get:

  1. Reflected-we give back what we receive- positive or negative. This is the most common form of energy exchange.
  2. Absorbed-while we do not give it back, we retain the negative energy and somewhere it affects our thought process, emotions and behavior towards the sender. This happens when the receiver out of fear or respect, absorbs the negativity.
  3. Transformation- The ideal form of energy exchange is when despite getting negative energy, we are not absorbing it and are sending back only positive energy. This transformation of energy is very crucial for any relationship to thrive.

I thought of a 3A,FL model that shall help in transforming energy and resolving conflicts.

Ask

Can I handle this situation differently?

Is it important for me to feel and behave negatively?.... to lose control?

Is there anything worthwhile in this person?

Accept

Accept people the way they are, of course without compromising on values

Agree

Agree to disagree and give the other person benefit of the same

Forget & Forgive

Let go

When 3A,FL model is backed by love (for people in general) and spiritual strength, relationships will bloom and so will people.